In my last blog post, I talked about what I had learned about limiting beliefs as a whole, and what I learned about my own personal limiting beliefs, particularly the thought, “I’m just not that special”.
Since that time, I’ve been doing a little work on changing my limiting beliefs and I wanted to give you an update and a 5 step process on how to manage your own limiting beliefs,
First of all, based on the recommendations of the podcast, the first thing that I did is write out all of the things that I was saying to myself. This was a bit of a weird exercise because as I was writing them, I knew in my head that they were not true. The crazy thing is, I also knew I would say them to myself internally quite regularly. It was actually therapeutic just seeing them on paper!
After that, I imagined myself saying those same things to my son or my daughter. This opened up a whole new level of consciousness about how negative and demeaning those thoughts actually were! Those things that you say to yourself, you would NEVER say to anyone else. I couldn’t imagine saying things like that to anyone, especially not my husband or best friend, son or daughter. They’re just too much.
To do the work, I went through the exercise of imagining that I said those same statements I had written down, to my son. With that, I imagined what he would feel like. This step was really revealing. Even saying the statements out loud made them seem ridiculous and made me wonder, why am I saying this to myself.
For the next step, I worked through each statement and wrote a corresponding affirmation statement. This new statement was the truth, and basically the opposite of my negative thoughts. Instead of each of those limiting beliefs, like “I’m not that special,” I had a statement that said, “I have been through some unique situations and experiences that other people can learn from.”
Once I had compiled the affirmations, I made myself a voice recording on my phone. It was very short…less than 2 minutes. Every day for the next two weeks, I listened to that voice recording a few times during the day…in the morning on the way to work, on the way home from work, when I headed out for lunch, etc.
After about two weeks, I found myself not only forgetting to listen (enter Christmas holidays and a change in routine), but I also felt like it was sinking in. I had begun taking the actions that I needed to take to turn around each of those negative thought processes and actually found myself saying things like, “Wait, don’t say that, that’s not true.”
It was a little disappointing that I didn’t maintain listening to the affirmations for longer, but I still have them to play anytime I remember or need a lift. Hearing myself say those positive statements several times a day for two weeks was very effective…it’s amazing the impact your own voice can have.
What I found really interesting is how ideas start to come together and validate each other, even when you’re least expecting it. Just after I started doing this work, I also started earning my certification to be a hypnotist. Don’t worry, I’m not planning on leaving banking to be a hypnotist but this certification does support our NeuroRedeem business. NeuroRedeem is an online program that uses a patent pending hypnosis technique, developed by my husband, to help people make behavior modifications, like stress reduction.
Both ideologies would say that if you are getting a result that you’re unhappy with, you need to change your actions but in order to change your actions, you need to change your feelings about those actions, and in order to change your feelings, you need to change your thought process.
Changing your thought process can be done in a variety of ways, like the affirmations I mentioned earlier, with self hypnosis, or even hypnotherapy.
With all of these concepts supporting the same general topic, I feel like I am really starting to understand how to work through these challenges to find my own success.
If we take my original scenario through an example it would go like this. My thought is, I’m not that special. When I have that thought, then I begin to feel like no one cares what I have to say or wants to read anything I write. The action that comes from that feeling is that I don’t do it. I’m just not motivated and if I’m not motivated to do the writing, or if I’m not motivated to speak on a particular topic, then I don’t get the result that I want of helping other people and helping to get my story out.
I have now replaced my thoughts to instead think that I have unique skills and experiences that might benefit other people. Then my feeling becomes, “Remember the time that happened? That’s a unique experience.” Next, I start to take action by writing that down, talking about it, or finding another way to use that example in my blog or business…and my results are changing.
For me, this process of analyzing and replacing the thought patterns is quite effective. It’s been really coming together over the last month and I wanted to turn it into a repeatable process that you could use on your own negative thought patterns.
So that’s it, a simple 5 step process to identify the beliefs that are holding you back, and replace them with a mindset that will help you accomplish every success in the world.
I can’t wait to hear about your progress. Send me an email at email@example.com and let me know what you are working on. I would love to be your cheerleader!